I feel I just need to be the one to put this in writing because quite recently I cut off my long black hair and traded it for a blonde pixie cut, seems like a normal enough thing to do right? Bit of a change, new look for a new me and so on! Alas I was not prepared for the backlash my new (awesome) hairstyle was about to receive. To those people reading this who are not from Ireland, let me just explain; I live in a small rural village full of people who all "fit in" and of which i'm a fairly active and well known member of the community (my mother works in the local shop - shes like the village celeb!) So i cut off all my hair as seen in my previous blog entries however not many people were aware of this as i think went into hospital for almost 2 weeks followed by almost a month of recovery where I was unable to leave the house so to say my hair was new to people is a bit of an understatement! However what i was not prepared for was the divide I was about to cause in the village! And boy do I mean a divide!! Let me walk you through the stages!
1. No, i'm not a lesbian!
Now don't get me wrong some of my closest friends are gay so i'm not having an anti-gay rant, I'm merely saying that a persons sexuality is not defined by their hairstyle! I should also use this opportunity to explain that my younger brother has flowing locks half way down his back and yet nobody ever questions his sexuality, or infact anything about him, owing to the fact that hes obviously a hard core biker and totally unapproachable! NOT!! Put plain and simply the only thing you can infer from my hairstyle is that i like hair bows!!
2. No, Girls don't NEED long hair!
A surprising amount of shall we say "elderly" people seem convinced that girls need to have long hair! How about NO! One particular lady went so far as to tell me "no. I don't like it. Grow it back. You have a small face you NEED long hair!" I think its such a load of crap that somebody can tell you what you should and shouldn't have as your personal style! Just because its not my usual look or one that I had for the past 24 years doesn't mean that i'm not the same person or that it doesn't hurt my feelings!! That being said i don't need need the approval of anyone else to make me feel good about my hair either! Falling into this trap leads to wanting to grow your hair out just to suit others even though you know you are killing it Jennifer Lawrence style!!
3. It doesn't matter what my mother thinks!
Is this a worldwide phenomenon or just an Irish thing? I feel like the first question out of peoples mouths is "what did your mother say?" What does it matter? I'm an adult thanks very much and I'm oh so very capable of deciding to cut my hair, without parental permission! However should my hair be the biggest of my mothers problems then i think she would agree with me that overall that would be a pretty successful day all round. Get a grip society!! I also don't need my mothers permission to cross the road!! Shock Horror!!
4. I'm pretty sure i'm still an absolute BABE!
OMG men don't find short hair attractive! You are going to die alone unless you grow your hair back! Calm your tits people!! Do I really want to be with the guy whose so shallow that my hair is his biggest issue! I think not!! Your hair is a small part of your overall look but not a part of your inner beauty and personality! To all the ladies with the pixie cuts and short hair i say fair play, it takes guts to not hide behind a mane of hair!
5. It's my hair and i'll do what I want to!
So some days my hair is awful, no I cant just tie it up and i do rely heavily on hats to hide my woefully bad hair days! So what! When I had long hair I had bad hair days too....i'm not feeling defined by this whole scenario! The upside to this being that I have amassed quite a large collection of lipstick, which is apparently the only thing stopping me from being mistaken for a man! (The caddy for Happy Gilmore to be specific - Thanking you Dermot)
But as i have mentioned my hair is only one part of who I am over all and its not going to be how i define myself - Caroline the girl with short hair - instead Caroline the girl brave enough to open up her inner thoughts and invite the whole world to read them. (Though I feel sorrier for the readers in that situation) I didn't choose the pixie life the pixie life chose me, and hey is that really the worst thing to happen??
But as i have mentioned my hair is only one part of who I am over all and its not going to be how i define myself - Caroline the girl with short hair - instead Caroline the girl brave enough to open up her inner thoughts and invite the whole world to read them. (Though I feel sorrier for the readers in that situation) I didn't choose the pixie life the pixie life chose me, and hey is that really the worst thing to happen??
Peace Out
xxxxxx
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